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The desire to move toward a better life is present in many of us, but for some people the obstacles they encounter prove to be too much to overcome, resulting in a passively unhappy existence. Although each and every one of us is on a slightly different journey, many similar things are holding all of us back.
Without acknowledging and overcoming the elements in your life that are delaying or halting your progress, your chances of making your dreams come true are slim. Sometimes, it may even be difficult to recognize precisely what things are holding you back, even if it seems clear to everyone around you.
This type of quandary is what leads friends and family members to stage interventions for people they love who’ve got a real problem that they aren’t fully aware of. And while we’re hardly talking about a drug addiction here, think of this as your wake up call from your passivity.
Take a close look at your every day life – are any of the following things preventing you from becoming the person you really want to be?
This green-eyed monster comes in many different forms, and may not present itself in the way that you might expect. Most often, jealousy rears its head when you subconsciously feel like you’re not good enough – that someone else may be “better” or preferable to you in some way. It’s possible to experience envy in many aspects of your life, so look closely at relationships outside of the one you have with your love partner. The only way to rid yourself of feeling jealous is complete self-acceptance.
“A show of envy is an insult to oneself.” ~Y. Yevtushenko
We all feel fear at one time or another, but if your fear dominates your decisions regarding making necessary changes in your life, you’ll forever be imprisoned in your current cautionary way of life. At some point you must fully realize that if you never risk anything, you’ll never gain anything either.
“Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop.” ~Usman B. Asif
This is such an easy pit to fall into but one that is incredibly difficult to climb out of. Comfort is a hard thing to give up, and routines are something that we all need in order to feel a sense of stability. In order to overcome your complacency with a life that you’re less-than-passionate about, you’ll need to come up with a specific plan that includes clear steps toward your goals.
“We shall have no better conditions in the future if we are satisfied with all those which we have at present.” ~Thomas Edison
- Ignoring your inner voice/instinct
Many times we ignore our inner voices because we don’t want to hear what they are telling us. Listening to them and following through means a potentially challenging road ahead, which is why we don’t always listen to our instincts. However, feeling unsettled or unhappy is a signal that something is seriously out of alignment, and that changes need to be made. Never ignore your inner voice.
“Good instincts usually tell you what to do long before your head has figured it out.” ~Michael Burke
- Negative thinking
Stop telling yourself that you’re not good enough or smart enough to live your dream because a poor self-image will hold you back like nothing else on this list. Remember this: everyone in this world was born on equal footing, and if anyone can be successful, you certainly can. Oftentimes, your perception of how difficult a task will be is out of proportion to its actual difficulty level.
“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine
Throughout my life, I’ve frequently been inspired by reading motivational quotes and mantras. Many times, the right phrase can awaken parts of you that have long been dormant and unused. One particular quote has helped me successfully complete tasks that seem too complicated, and it just might work for you, too:
“Panic at the thought of doing a thing is a challenge to do it.” ~Henry S. Haskins