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It’s hard to say no.
It’s even harder when we really want to say yes! It can be excruciating when it costs us financially or emotionally to say no. But…
There’s always a “but”, isn’t there?
I believe that the toughest no is often the most necessary and the most valuable – at work, at home, in every area of our lives.
What do I mean by a “tough no?” How about when you are offered an exciting project at work, but just can’t fit it in and juggle your other work successfully? Or when you are asked to volunteer for that special cause that is near and dear to your heart, but your plate is already full? Maybe you are offered your “dream job,” but there’s a catch, you have to travel all the time and you have small children? Or maybe it’s a fabulous career move that sounds wonderful, but isn’t really the direction you want to go. How about the potential client, partner, friend that looks good on the outside, but just sucks all of your energy?
You know what I’m talking about. You’re beginning to sway, your arm is being twisted either by money, pride, or guilt – but deep in the pit of your stomach, you just know that saying yes is the wrong decision – or maybe now just isn’t the right time.
Can you say no? Should you?
Yes, you can! Yes, you should!
I have struggled with this from time to time and have always been glad when I managed to choke out the “NO” even if it half killed me to do it. I just recently wrestled hard with a “tough no” that might have cost me financially in the short run, but would have taken me down the wrong path and stood in the way of long-term goals. It was the right choice for me even though it was incredibly scary and heart wrenching to utter that no and then follow through and stand firm on it.
If something is not a good fit for you – the best answer is no.
If something doesn’t quite feel right – the best answer is no.
If something takes you off your path, veering from your vision and beliefs – the best answer is no.
Stay on course.
Know where you’re going.
Have your priorities straight.
Listen to your gut.
And most importantly – when the decision is made and the NO is given, move on and don’t look back!
The beauty of the tough no is that in having the courage to dig down deep and honor your soul, you open up the space for new wonderful opportunities to flow into your life and you’ll be able to confidently offer the joyous “Yes!”
Royale Scuderi is a life fulfillment expert, consultant and freelance writer who specializes in personal and professional growth, life satisfaction, and success. She is a curator of ideas and strategies that support a productive and purposeful life. Visit her at Productive Life Concepts .